The Discipleship Mandate: Bring Mentoring Back

Small churches have a serious advantage when it comes to discipleship. If we’ll use the right tools.

How well does your church disciple believers? If you’re like most church leaders, you probably feel like you don’t do it as well as you’d like to.

This is especially true for small churches.

You’ve looked through curriculum, maybe even tried some of the highly-recommended programs that have worked well in the big churches you admire. But for most small churches, they don’t seem to work.

Why not?

Because curriculum is not the best way to disciple people.

Better Than Curriculum

Using curriculum isn’t bad. There’s some great curriculum out there and I’m grateful for every believer and every church that has been helped by it.

But curriculum isn’t the ideal way to disciple believers in most churches for one simple reason – because most churches are small. And people in smaller groups, including smaller churches, don’t learn best with classroom-style curriculum. They learn best by another, so-old-it’s-new learning style.

Mentoring.

Mentoring is better than curriculum.

Especially for discipleship.

Mentoring was how Jesus, Paul and the rest of the early church discipled new believers. Click To Tweet

Mentoring was how Jesus, Paul and the rest of the early church discipled new believers.

Discipleship isn’t primarily about knowing theology and memorizing verses – as important as that is. The essence of discipleship is, as Paul put it, to “Follow my example, as I follow the example of Christ.” (1 Cor 1:11 – NIV)

Overcoming Our Classroom Bias

We’ve almost abandoned mentoring in favor of curriculum in most of the western church world.

The skeptics will tell us it’s because companies can make money selling us curriculum. There’s no money to be made in mentoring. While it’s never wise to discount the role money plays in many of our bad decisions, I think putting the blame on the profit motive is misguided, simplistic and unnecessarily cynical in this situation.

The real reasons are less sinister and much more boring.

It’s about old habits dying hard. We’re used to doing it this way. We’re so accustomed to learning in a classroom setting that it’s hard for us to think of doing it any other way.

In Jesus’ day they didn’t have a classroom bias. People learned because a mentor took an apprentice under their wing. They lived and worked together. The mentor showed the apprentice how to do the task until the apprentice could do it on their own. Then the apprentice mentored others.

It still happens that way in many non-western cultures today.

Why Curriculum?

In addition to our classroom bias, we’ve defaulted to a curriculum bias in most of our churches because of size. Once a church, or any group, gets beyond a certain size, mentoring becomes impractical, even impossible.

But we should stick with mentoring as long as we can. It is always the preferred way to make disciples.

We should stick with mentoring as long as we can. It is always the preferred way to make disciples. Click To Tweet

This is not an anti-curriculum rant. Curriculum is great. It can be used quite effectively to supplement a mentoring process, including providing theological and methodological guardrails against extremism. But curriculum should never replace mentoring. Especially in a smaller church.

Which brings us back to where we started. Most of the churches in the world are small. The reason we gravitate towards curriculum isn’t because there are too many people to mentor. It’s because we’re so used to using curriculum that we’ve forgotten about mentoring.

But we need to think about what we’re missing when we undermine the value of mentoring.

Ask anyone to list the top spiritual influences in their lives. They will never mention a curriculum. What do they mention? A teacher. A pastor. A parent. A friend. In other words, a mentor.

The truth is, we’re already doing mentoring because we’re having relationships. But we’re not mentoring as well as we could because we’re seldom as intentional about as we need to be.

The Power of Mentoring

I wonder. I don’t know, but I wonder. Could mentoring be part of the answer to the current wave of people – especially younger people – leaving the church in record numbers?

I think the possibility is worth considering.

Talk to 100 people who have left, or are considering leaving their church. I doubt if you’d find 10 of them who have an ongoing mentoring relationship with someone at that church.

Curriculum doesn’t connect us to a church body. People do. People who love Jesus and show us how to love him, too. People who love us enough to invest their time in us.

Again, curriculum is not bad. The issue isn’t whether we use it, but how much we rely on it. The concentration in discipleship needs to be on the mentoring relationship, not on the curriculum.

Curriculum can make us think we've been discipled when all we've done is finish the classes. Click To Tweet

Curriculum can make us think we’ve been discipled when all we’ve done is finish the classes.

But Mentoring Is Hard!

I know what many pastors are thinking as you read this. Especially small church pastors, because I’m one of you.

Mentoring sounds hard.

You barely have time to do the basic pastoring tasks in your church, let alone mentor everyone, no matter how big or small your church may be. Buying a book or a curriculum packet is so much easier than a hands-on investment in all those lives.

I get it. I thought the same thing for many years. But mentoring is not about asking any one person, including the pastor, to be responsible for all the discipleship in a church.

The beauty of mentoring is that it doesn’t just create smarter Christians. It raises up new mentors. That’s one of the huge advantages of a mentoring-based discipleship process over one that’s curriculum-based.

So how can we institute a mentoring process in our churches – especially our smaller churches?

I’m glad you asked. In my next post we’ll walk through that, with The Discipleship Mandate: Mentoring Is Better than Curriculum.

Let’s bring mentoring back.


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2 thoughts on “The Discipleship Mandate: Bring Mentoring Back”

  1. At it’s peak, my AG church averaged 280 every Sunday. I won’t go into a 10-page explanation of what happened, but we dropped to 80. The “experts” say we shouldn’t have, but we survived and are at 115 now. The hurts took over 3 years to heal, and our new pastor was patient during that time. But he is showing us what our place in the community can look like tomorrow.

    I believe in mentoring, too. The Lord recently gave me a really easy way to turn everyone in our church into a mentor. We’re in the process of making a different kind of church directory. Example: Let’s say there’s a young lady thinking about joining the military. She can look it up in the directory and find a list of people who have served. The teen can then get valuable insight and tips. Or maybe a man is thinking about a career change and is looking at construction. Same thing applies. The list of jobs, careers, hobbies, personal ministries and experiences in a church is nearly endless.

    Positive relationships. Positive mentoring. Positive decisions. Win, win, win.

  2. At it’s peak, my AG church averaged 280 every Sunday. I won’t go into a 10-page explanation of what happened, but we dropped to 80. The “experts” say we shouldn’t have, but we survived and are at 115 now. The hurts took over 3 years to heal, and our new pastor was patient during that time. But he is showing us what our place in the community can look like tomorrow.

    I believe in mentoring, too. The Lord recently gave me a really easy way to turn everyone in our church into a mentor. We’re in the process of making a different kind of church directory. Example: Let’s say there’s a young lady thinking about joining the military. She can look it up in the directory and find a list of people who have served. The teen can then get valuable insight and tips. Or maybe a man is thinking about a career change and is looking at construction. Same thing applies. The list of jobs, careers, hobbies, personal ministries and experiences in a church is nearly endless.

    Positive relationships. Positive mentoring. Positive decisions. Win, win, win.

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